Aging in place?

Driving through Texas, particularly West Texas, gives you lots of time to think about where you are and where you want to be.  The research on aging refers to the notion of "aging in place" or the desire of seniors to age where they currently live.  In the last couple of weeks we've spent time with two lesbian couples who have been friends of ours for a number of years.  We've all chosen to leave Seattle and live full-time or part-time (during the warm winter months) in California or Arizona.  For our friends, the choice of where they would want to live if they were unable to care for themselves is based on where their family and friends are, mostly in the Northwest.  Although Jane and I have family and friends in the Northwest as well, our choice would be to live in San Diego as we age. 

Jane and I have lived together for 19 years. Our homes have been in Seattle, Whidbey Island, and San Diego and we've moved 9 times.  I've lived in all the states that start with the letter "I" (there are four of them) and Jane has covered five states.  Not sure what "aging in place" means to seniors who, due to work, pleasure, family, finances, etc. have more than one place that feels like home.  My greatest concern is that aging in place can only provide us the security we are seeking if there are options for us there.  Traveling through Texas, specifically the Austin area, LGBT welcoming senior housing doesn't seem to be in place.  Austin has supportive care for LGBT who want to age at home, provided by trained staff who know and understand our needs.  I called the LGBT center at the University and asked, "Where could I go to find out about services for LGBT seniors?"  The response, "Senior?  What exactly do you mean?"  I answered, "Like, old people!"  The light bulb went on.  "Oh!  I get it!  We don't have anything like that here in Austin."  Ok, I understand this is a young, vibrant, liberal university community but there have to be some of us here that are over 60!  Anyone?  Anyone?